As most people know February 14 is Valentine's day.
When most people think of Valentines day they automatically associate it with romantic relationships, flowers, chocolates, fancy dinners etc. This can be great (but doesn’t need to happen only on February 14). This tradition can cause those of us who are not in significant romantic relationships to feel upset, disappointed, insecure etc. It can also result in people feeling left out. But it doesn’t have to be that way.
I personally associate Valentines day with LOVE. I would like you to take a minute to reflect upon 5 things you love. Please write down your top 5.
Once you have created your list, break it down into themes. Are these material possessions? Hobbies? Memories? People/relationships?
What about yourself? Did you include yourself on that list?
When I do this exercise with my clients, very few of them include themselves in their list-even when I ask them to expand it to 10 or 20 things they love!
Does that mean that they don’t love themselves? Not necessarily. It may just mean that they think about it in a different context.
Let me explain. Many of us are taught about the importance of maintaining positive relationships with our friends and family members, but we are not taught about the importance of the relationship that we have with ourselves. The relationship we have with ourselves truly is the most important and stable relationships that we will ever have!
Here is why it is so important and priceless! Regardless of where we are in life, who we are with, what we are doing...we always have ourselves and always will. But many people don’t realize it.
This is where SELF-LOVE comes in!
Self-love essentially means loving yourself! This involves treating yourself with kindness and compassion; appreciating everything that you do; forgiving yourself; honoring yourself!
How can we improve our self-love?
We can start by increasing our awareness to our current relationship with ourselves, and following these steps:
Valentine's day is the perfect day to remind yourself of all the people, places and things that you love. It's also a great reminder to continue (or start) focusing and honouring yourself. Start practicing the steps listed above, to help increase your SELF-LOVE. Continue practicing this everyday!
Write something about yourself. No need to be fancy, just an overview.